Mr. Majestic and rape jokes

Agreeing with you here, this is unacceptable, really, especially the fact that he refused to apologise, what did you say to make him say this?

I am...Highly disappointed in this. As a victim of sexual assault I find this highly disturbing and uncomfortable. I'll talk to him, i thought he was better than this.

That being said, perhaps the same needs to be said to Rusty.

Just as a notice, Majestic is just an iconner/spriter...

But yeah. I'll talk to him.

From your post, I hope that you would understand exactly, given the circumstances, what the issue with rape jokes are. (Let me give you a hint: it is the same).

Rape jokes are something that I'm generally against. Mom jokes are not. The reason for this is that there are far more people that have an issue with the joking mention of rape, than there are that have one with the joking mention of mothers. Now, I think that all these jokes (rape jokes, race jokes, dark humor - although rape jokes are generally damn distasteful) can have a place among a friendgroup where you know nobody has an issue with them, but they're not something you do in public, because you don't know if someone will take offense to them, and it's pretty likely.

How I prefer to deal with this is, I don't make any of these jokes when I don't know how the person will react. I have a dark sense of humor, but I don't try to bring it out unless I know it will be accepted. Additionally, I've had some run-ins in the past with some people over broaching topics which they found offensive, and here is the most important part of this, and something that I believe everyone should learn from, both Majestic and the other people involved in this conflict:

You can't always know when something you do will hurt someone. Sometimes it's predictable, in which case common sense asks you not to do it. But if you can't reasonably predict it, and it happens, it's okay. Yes, you've still hurt the person. No, it's not your fault, and yes, you should still try to do something to make them better (because we're not assholes). And once you know that topic isn't one they like having joked about, you don't joke about it with them anymore. The end.

As for Maj, I'm sorry you had a shitty day. I'm sorry that someone said something that upset you, and honestly, it makes me really sad to think about. While you might be hurt, frustrated, and angered, I would still like you to remember that this person most likely did not mean to offend you. Thus, something really important you need to do, when situations like these happen, is to tell them you have an issue with what they said.

Communication is key. This is an unfortunate situation, in which I believe nobody had malicious feelings, but it devolved into something bad because nobody took the time to actually talk about it. Your responsibility, when something like this happens, is to explain your feelings towards it plainly and clearly, to make sure incident reports like these don't end up in the complaints forum.

Also, I don't believe anyone said anything about a ban.

Hey, the hentai tentacle thing is my gimmick. I'm not to blame when someone overdoes it when taking offense to something and then starts spewing about rape. I do it in a way that's at the very least mildly humorous.

Your words, not mine, dear rusty.

I'm not sure if my words are any good here, but I'll speak.

People react differently to different jokes, and this is something that everybody should understand. Some people will laugh off any joke you give out to them, while other people will, as we've seen two cases of, react poorly.

It's hard to know what will offend one person, and not the next, and since this is the internet, we don't know much about each other. This said though, rape is generally something you don't joke about offline /and/ online.

What I personally didn't like, was the fact that Majestic tried to justify it after it had been done. I understand, maybe you acted rashly because of your bad day, and posted something you didn't entirely mean to. If somebody tells you, that you've said something that they didn't like, especially something that is a touchy subject like rape, don't try to come off and say that you can do it, because they offended you. Put your hands up, take a step back, and reply, "Sorry, my bad,".

This entire conflict would have been easily resolved if Majestic didn't reply with, quote "It's wot you gon get, son. You gimme a bad insult I'll give you a bad reaction" end quote.

Instead, replying with something along the lines of, "Sorry about that. I wasn't thinking on that one. I just don't like "your momma" jokes, so I kinda lashed out there. Sorry, guys," would have calmed everybody down, and would have kept this complaint from coming around. Not to be rude Majestic, but nobody could have known you would be offended by the joke, but you could have seen what you were saying was going to offend at least somebody.

This is just my two cents. It probably doesn't say much more than what everybody else did, but still.

TL;DR: If somebody is offended by what you say, trying to justifying it won't make you look good.

As a non-staff, I had my OOC muted for simply making a comment on the SWAT teams no-knock raids in America for the reason of it being 'distateful, out of context, etc.'

Then this happens?

I can understand, I have a very dark humour, I joke about horrible things but as Frances said, you don't just say those things where everyone can see. It's like walking into a holocaust memorial and dropping Jew jokes. Something you don't do, right? Or maybe screaming bomb on a plane going through turbulence.

Just, watch your comments man. We all make mistakes and I can respect that. I can respect you were stressed out.
The thing that really bothers me is that the other administrator's didn't do anything about it.